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Friday, October 17, 2014

enjoying the season


I'm a big fan of making lists.  It helps me be productive and prioritize what I'd like to do.  Being out of school for a few years now, having goals and check lists helps me feel like I'm accomplishing something and growing.

But sometimes, I need to put aside the to do lists.  I've been reminded of that this fall when I've been pretty worn out most nights when I get home and just can't seem to check off all the things I want to do.

I've been trying to shift my focus from quantity to quality, and I received some inspiration from Peach and Humble's Autumn on Purpose at just the right time.  This week's newsletter included this: 

For the last several years, I have been creating seasonal bucket lists packed with things I wanted to do before the season ended.  They were always fun things like "bake an apple pie" or "go the pumpkin patch" but they were a checklist of tasks, nonetheless.  More things-to-do stacked on top of my already long list of things-to-do.  And even though I wanted to do all of these bucket list items, I noticed I was starting to check off fewer and fewer tasks as the years went on.  Then, without fail, I would feel guilty and as though we had somehow missed the season because we didn't finish our list.

I read that and had an immediate "aha" moment.  I do the same thing every season and inevitably feel the same mixture of guilt and disappointment as each new season approached.  The solution?? Focus on a few simple traditions that you absolutely love to keep around as your seasonal rituals.  


I love taking the focus away from trying to accomplish every single thing you associate with a holiday or time of year and shifting it instead to a few simple traditions that bring you a lot of joy.


I started making a mental list of my favorite fall traditions, and I almost immediately had about ten things.  And I thought -- no -- that's the opposite of what I'm supposed to be doing with this exercise! Remember  -- less is more!!


After some deliberation, I narrowed my special fall traditions list to the following:

- Watch the Great Pumpkin (preferably while snuggling with beagles)
- Bake something delicious
- Enjoy the changing colors (snap pictures as desired) 
- Go apple/pumpkin picking

Everything else is icing on the cake.


In summary, goals and check lists have their place, but if I really want to enjoy a season, I need to allow myself to be fully present in it.  And that means not having a list of goals and expectations.  Wish me luck as I try this out the rest of autumn.

P.S. It's not too late to check out Peach and Humble's Autumn on Purpose series.  Sign up to receive a weekly inspirational newsletter in your inbox. 

What are your favorite fall traditions?  

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